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Mommy Lies #1 – You Can’t Wait To Get Away…

Sunday, June 14th, 2009

While it’s true that I love spending time with my kiddies, it is also true that I look for ways to “break-away” for awhile.  Now on paper it sounds great, sleep in, do grown-up things, only take care of yourself, but the truth is while that is awesome, missing your kids comes with this territory.

Case in point, a long weekend without our eldest Brook.  Grams and Papa took Brook “Up North” to their lake cabin for a long weekend.  She’s been gone since Thursday night and she will be back sometime later tonight.  She loves going up there with them and it’s great for all of them to have time together, but I miss her something terribly.  This leads me to my second realization…

One kid is super easy!!!  So easy in fact, that it’s almost like not having a kid around.  Sounds silly, but Blake, being just a baby, goes virtually anywhere with us and he is just a go with the flow type of kid so far.  We spent all day Friday in Milwaukee and we then went to a Brewers game that night and he was easy peasy.  Brook wouldn’t have stayed in her seat for more than 20 minutes, but with Blake, he just chilled on my lap watching all the lights and people move about and he was completely cool.

He also sleeps soooooo much better without Brook here.  Much quieter and he loves the quiet.  Yesterday, he slept till 9am and then took a four hour nap and then slept again until 9:30am.  He got up once to feed, but other than that, I got to sleep in…which was heavenly.

But, even though all of this is great, I miss Brook so desperately and I am dying to see her.

Unfortunately, I am heading down to Chicago for a few days of vacation, so I will only  be able to see her for a minute and then I am heading out.  So, technically I won’t see her till Thursday.  I love my adult time, but I miss my children so.  So the lie is really just not telling the whole story…while being away is needed and wonderful, missing your kids pulls at the heartstrings.  Don’t worry, in a month or so, I’ll be begging for a break again, then I will miss them again and the circle will start all over again :)

Seriously???

Thursday, June 11th, 2009

So it’s not bad enough that I have poison ivy or some other allergic reaction on my face that makes me look like a crazed, contagious sicko that everyone feels the need to take two steps in the other direction, because it’s just so darn ugly and noticeable…Now a mosquito decided I needed another reason to hide indoors all day since it bit me on the same cheek that the poison ivy is doing it’s magical work on.

No amount of makeup can cover this hedious face right now.

Ahhhhh….How I love Nature!

Blake Hits Some Milestones

Thursday, June 11th, 2009

So, as a second time Mom, I am not obsessive with Blake’s need to hit milestones, but don’t mistake that for not caring.  I do, and recently he has hit a couple of big ones!

Blake Talking to His Mommy

Blake Talking to His Mommy

This is a picture of him talking to me…Yeah, we are discussing the stock market and how he is thinking of investing once he’s five months old, drug cartels and how they are corrupting the planet…seriously, it’s just mind altering chemicals, who needs that when some grownup called Mom makes silly faces at you all day, that’s mind altering enough?  Finally, we talked about how he personally is going to help halt global warming.  He told me he will pee less which will create less dirty diapers and in turn have a smaller impact on the landfills.

Seriously though, he will mimic you if you make a motorboat sound and he will also make that sound if he wants your attention.  It’s his first attempt to communicate with us and it’s adorable!  He is giggling and cooing and doing all the fun stuff that a four month old should be doing in the communication department…I love it!

Then the other day, he rolled over from his tummy to his back!  He gets all frustrated on tummy time and realized if he works himself up enough and gets overly pissed off, then he gains enough energy to flip himself around.  He is quite astonished that he can do this fete!  So astonished in fact that he has chosen to not repete it in a couple of days, guess he’s a little calmer now and days!

Chillin on Tummy Time...Should Have Fixed Those Devil Eyes

Chillin on Tummy Time...Should Have Fixed Those Devil Eyes

Finally, he has started grasping his toys and putting them in his mouth…while I know that is totally normal right now, I am not so sure that we should consider my fingers as toys…or maybe we should, since the inevitably end up grasped in his hands and into his mouth.  He has this crinkle toy that so far is proven to be his favorite…I think he likes the noise it makes when he is chewing it and he loves the blanket texture since the toy is made of that material and usually if that toy isn’t in his mouth, an actual blanket or sleep sack is.

Seriously Cute Picture of My Four Month Old

Seriously Cute Picture of My Four Month Old

So, my baby Blake is starting to be, “All’s Growns Up!”  Well at least in baby milestones he is!

My Beautiful Garden

Thursday, June 11th, 2009

The desert is beautiful…All the mountains, cacti and bogenvillas…but, I do love the beautiful flowers of the Midwest…here are a few of my favs from my garden…enjoy!

The Peony Bushes are Bursting With Beautiful and Fragrant Flowers

The Peony Bushes are Bursting With Beautiful and Fragrant Flowers

The Clematis is Finally Climbing Up...First Time in Four Years

The Clematis is Finally Climbing Up...First Time in Four Years

The First Batch of Many Asiatic Lilies

The First Batch of Many Asiatic Lilies

I Love The Way The Iris Frame the Peony

I Love The Way The Iris Frame the Peony

The Wisconsin garden is starting to show some nice color…I can’t wait till it’s in full bloom!

Where In The World Am I?

Friday, June 5th, 2009

So it seems like I fell off the face of this Earth, when in reality I started watching both kids full time, which means there is only 1 hour in the day for me, if I’m lucky before bed and I’ve been using that to either catch up on email, spend time with my husband, attempt to exercise or read a book.  It goes by really fast and there isn’t much room for multiple accomplishments in that hour.  I know, this seems like a lame ass excuse and if you want you can think that, but in reality, it’s my life…take it or leave it.

Okay, so the last month has been a complete blur, but if you want to know the highlights…well, here it goes.

  1. Everyone got the stomach flu in our tribe…I got it the worst, it was god aweful…like someone kicked me in the balls (if I had said balls).  And the worst part is I got it while in Tucson for my cousin’s college graduation, so I wasn’t in the comforts of my own home when I felt my worst.  I mean, I had a fever and I don’t think I’ve had a fever in well over ten years…very sick.  Oh and to try to be a mom while this sick is virtually impossible, but it doesn’t matter, you get only 24 hours to get better and then you have to be back on the job, even if you still feel like crap and still need to recover.
  2. One day after I was starting to get better, we packed up our trusty rented U-Haul trailer and started our 4-day journey across the United States to our summer cabin in Wisconsin.  It was really hard with a three month old, he didn’t like being in the car for that many hours out of the day and really I don’t blame him.  Also, Travis’s body decided to have the stomach flu while on this drive because we weren’t all miserable enough already.
  3. I literally lost my mind the first week or so that we were in Wisconsin…I was a crying heaping mess who couldn’t do one thing without losing it.  Lovely, I know.  I was a wreak because the intense stress of two kids trying to get comfortable in new surroundings while this cute little cabin was falling apart with at least a half a dozen things broken, (major things like hot water heaters, water pumps, dishwashers and heaters).  Heater in the summer you ask?  Yes, because apparently Wisconsin didn’t get the memo that summer has started and it’s freekin’ freezing around here most days!
  4. I’ve had to, not by my choice, slow editing production down since there isn’t 28 hours in a day.
  5. I’ve almost gained all the the weight I worked so hard to get off…stress, no exercise and eating to cope have all played a part in that demise.  Hopefully, I will get back on track sooner than later…Horrible kick off to the summer of the work out!
  6. I got over most of my anxiety thank god and now we are starting to get in the groove of things…I’m hiring some summertime help, everything has gotten fixed and the kids are doing better…so hopefully the blog will get more action then it’s seen lately :) .

So, that is what you’ve missed out on in a nutshell….hopefully I will be able to keep up a little better in the near future.

TTFN!