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His Lyrics Makes My Heart Smile…

Sunday, June 28th, 2009

About three summers ago Travis, Brook and I went to Lake Geneva to bum around and eat some lunch.  To our luck a local artist Jon Troast was playing an acoustic set at Potbelly’s.  It’s just a sandwich shop there, but for a moment, it was his stage.  He sang a few cover songs and he also sang some of the music he had written himself.  Both Travis and I were blown away by his talent and I promptly bought his CD Second Story.  As we left the restaurant we discussed how when he made it big, that we could tell people we saw him when…

Well, a couple of weeks ago we were at the movies when I saw a poster for a Jon Troast concert.  I promptly made plans to attend and was really excited to see and hear his music again.  I didn’t know that this show marked the end of a fantastic journey for him.  He just accomplished 100 concerts in 100 days and the concert that we attended was his 100th one.  It was really fun to hear about his adventures and to see someone trying so hard to get his music and his message out there.

What message you ask?  Well, I guess you are asking the wrong person, seeing that I am not him, but if I had to guess, his message is of living life, enjoying the small stuff, learn from love and remember that you and everyone around you are special.  He just has this great gift of songwriting and some of his songs remind me how special my life and the people that are in it are.  Let’s just put it this way, if I knew about his music when Travis and I got married, I would have definitely had You’re That Way as my wedding song.  It is just so beautiful and heartfelt.

So, I confess that although I enjoy his music, I didn’t know much about him and his concerts till last night.  I feel bummed out because if I would have known, I would have made sure that our living room was one of his stops on his concert tour.  Maybe he’ll have a round two and we will be lucky enough to have his music fill our home and we’ll be able to share his voice and talent with our family and friends.  It will also give me the chance to ask him why red shoes?  I know there is a story behind that, but I don’t know it and I’m a curious person :) .

He said he was going to be recording soon, and I hope he does because he has a new song about each moment in one’s life should be their favorite.  It really opened up my eyes and made me realize that each moment with my children and my husband is a great one and to stop and be in that moment, in that minute with those people.  Oh how my heart is smiling.

I’m Le Tired!

Saturday, June 27th, 2009

We are currently on day three of trying to teach Blake to sleep through the night.  We devised a plan to help ease him into this new transition which sounds simple and effective and more painful for us than him…hopefully.

So…here is the thing.  Travis and I are sleep fans.  I feel I can handle less sleep than him, but not by much.  And seriously my husband is absolutely useless if he hasn’t got what he considers enough sleep.  This is why I have the short end of the stick and get up every day with the children.  It’s because I got so sick and tired of him being grumpy and seriously he would be no good to us or anyone else the days he would get up in the morning first.  It wasn’t worth fighting over and it wasn’t worth the extra two hours I got on those days.

That doesn’t mean that I don’t love my sleep though.  I can survive happily on seven, but work my best on eight, just like us humans should.  Since Blake was born though, my body adapted to six to seven hours of broken sleep.  It’s not ideal, but it was working.  Blake would sleep till threeish in the morning, take a bottle, then sleep till at least seven when Brook would wake up.  It was an okay thing.  But, it is time to teach Blake to just sleep till seven like the rest of us and boy this is the fun part.  The hardest part about this is the fact that Brook still gets up and wants what she wants at seven.  When we were teaching her to sleep, we could just go back to bed once she cried it out.  But this time around, not so lucky.

So my fantasic plan is to drop him by an ounce of milk a night until the night where there is no bottle and then hopefully the self soothing will kick in and he’ll put himself back to sleep.  It’s a revised version of the cry it out method.  So ounce five and ounce four nights were okay, he cried for just a couple of minutes and went back to bed.  He woke up earlier than normal, but all in all, it wasn’t bad.  Last night was the three ounce night and well that was a bit more difficult.  He woke up for it around 4:30am and I let him fuss about the crib until five.  Then I gave him the three ounces, in which he sucked down as though he has never eaten before.  He promptly started to wail and I put him back in his crib.  He wailed until six which is the time that Travis and I agreed upon as his new feeding time.  So I fed him and he passed out and is still sleeping.  That would be great, but Brook woke up at seven.  So, I’ve basically been up since 4:30am and now my eyes are like lead and my body is rebelling.

Ahhhh, this is one part of parenthood that I hate.  I know it’s better for the whole family if Blake has a full night sleep, but the process of getting him there is almost not worth it.  And the boy won’t take a binkie.  That was another savior for us when we were doing this with Brook.  She loved her binkie and was fine with that instead of a bottle after a couple of nights.  He just spits it out as if to tell us, “what the hell?  Do you think I can be fooled by this piece of plastic?  I know it isn’t a bottle, now give me the real thing!”

Anyway, this too shall pass…but, until then, I will just be the tired grouchy woman with the two children.

Update Of The Two Babies In My Life

Monday, June 22nd, 2009

I took a few pictures of my little ones yesterday and today and now looking at them, it just amazes me on how fast the two of them are growing.  I know, it’s such a cliche that all of us parents say, but when you are in the day to day trenches, one tends not to notice to small changes our children go through or have, until they build up and then…bam!  Your baby is turning four years old or your other baby isn’t the smallest baby around anymore, in fact he is quite big!

Brook a Couple of Weeks Before Her 4th Birthday

Brook a Couple of Weeks Before Her 4th Birthday

My Big Man Blake at Four and a Half Months Old...Soooo Big!

My Big Man Blake at Four and a Half Months Old...Soooo Big!

Anyway, yesterday was the first official hot day here and we celebrated by going down to the lake and having Brook jump off of the pier and into my arms.  Abby was here to help, which was a godsend since Blake needs to be in the shade.  We would take turns switching off and watching the individual children.  I am ridiculously lucky to have some help this summer, I’d go crazy without it.  You can call me spoiled, I’m okay with that, it’s better than me going absolutely insane and being a raging bitch or a fumbling crying idiot.  And yes, I would be one of those without the help.  I don’t know why some people are so completely natural at being parents and there are people like me that struggle with the responsibility and the job of molding young lives.  That doesn’t mean that I don’t think I’m a good parent, it just means that this is not an easy job for me.  I get overly emotional and stressed and if I don’t get breaks, to put it simply, I break down.

Wow, that was a deviation of the first point…So, we went to the lake, got ice cream, went to the park twice and just enjoyed the warmth and sun for the day…Here are a couple of pictures of my two little ones getting ready for summer fun!

Brook Dancing Around While Getting Ready to Go to the Lake

Brook Dancing Around While Getting Ready to Go to the Lake

Blake in His First Swim Suit, It Barely Fit Since He Is Growing So Fast

Blake in His First Swim Suit, It Barely Fit Since He Is Growing So Fast

So, summer has officially started and while my garden is growing outside, inside the kids are doing the same!

My Favorite Part of The Day…

Monday, June 22nd, 2009

Well, I actually have two.  The obvious one is once both kids are asleep and that wonderful sound of silence that fills the air.  This is when I can hear my own thoughts and take a moment to breathe.  This is a great moment.

But, there is this time of day during the summer months when the sun is setting in the sky just so.

The Moment the Summer Cabin Looks Its Best with My Darling Little Girl Beside It

The Moment the Summer Cabin Looks Its Best with My Darling Little Girl Beside It

See how beautiful the sun is through the trees?  Everything seems to sparkle, right before the sun goes to bed for the night.  It’s calm and the temperature cools down and everything seems so peaceful and simple during this time of night.  These moments are the reason why we come up to Wisconsin for the summer, for these favorite moments.

I Spent Way Too Much Money!

Saturday, June 20th, 2009

I just got home yesterday from a couple day adventure in downtown Chicago and all I have to say is…I spent way too much money!  I tallied up the shopping spree, the spa, the dinners at amazing restaurants and the hotel stay and wow I better get back to working on making more discretionary income.  It was worth it though, I came home rejuvenated as a Mommy and ready to eat boxed mac and cheese, sing kid songs, play and be a taxi driver again.

I just wish I would have slept more while I was gone…aw well!  Oh, and I need at least a week of detoxing my body and working out to reverse the damage, but it was sooooo worth it.